Divorce and Kids: Sons and Daughters Process it Differently

When parents come to the realization that a marriage is no longer viable, the emotional fallout impacts all family members. Research shows that sons and daughters process their emotions after a divorce differently. Kentucky parents who are going through the process may be able to help their children easier if they understand how boys and girls experience a divorce.

Studies suggest that daughters will recover quicker from their parents’ divorce if they are permitted to reside primarily with their mothers, who help facilitate a healthy, ongoing relationship with their fathers. Girls are more inclined to seek to please both parents while turning blame for a divorce inward on themselves. Girls whose parents’ divorce was full of stress and animosity may experience an early onset of puberty and the health risks associated with early menstruation. Girls may also be more inclined to become a teen mother and engage less with school activities and sports. They also tend to develop eating disorders and trust issues.

Boys have been shown to act out more aggressively and to do poorly in school. They may have self-esteem issues and are more likely to have their own marriages end in divorce. Boys also are more inclined to gain weight and suffer related health problems. They are more likely to run away from home. Sons may experience poor sleep patterns and engage in more troublesome behaviors such as addiction tendencies.

Both sexes may struggle academically after parents split up. Boys are more likely to drop out of school while girls may not perform well on college entrance exams. However, if parents are able to forge an amiable relationship after a divorce and can ensure that children are able to form strong bonds with both parents, then children may get through the process in a healthy fashion. Kentucky residents who are concerned about the effects of their divorce on their children may seek the guidance of an experienced family law attorney.

Mother Works To Change How Child Custody Cases Are Handled

Sadly, not every case ensures a child is protected from an unstable parent. One mother, whose child died at the hands of her disturbed father, worked tirelessly to ensure that other parents do not suffer the devastating loss of a beloved child through domestic violence. She stated that she tried to inform the family court and other personnel that her former husband was a threat to her daughter’s well-being, but even the court-appointed advocate for her 2-year-old child dismissed her concerns of domestic violence.

Now, her work has produced a house resolution that seeks to ensure the safety of children caught in the middle of custody disputes. It is the first time the federal government has taken steps to influence how courts resolve these difficult cases. The bill, H. Con. Res. 72, provides an outline for how child custody cases should be handled. 

The bill, which is described as non-binding, places safety at the forefront of contested child custody fights. It also seeks to ensure that those who work on these cases are qualified to address issues related to family violence. While this is a federal resolution, parents are encouraged to request that their individual states take up similar measures. Though this is an extreme example of a custody case going wrong, the vast majority of cases can be resolved peaceably. Kentucky parents who are unable to settle on a parenting plan that suits their particular family’s needs may wish to consult with a family law attorney.

Hoping For a Conflict-Free Divorce? Consider Collaboration

Many people expect to experience conflict and confrontation when going through divorce. Because you recently made the decision to end your marriage, you may worry about the proceedings and whether you will have to deal with a considerable amount of contention. If you have kids, you may feel particularly concerned about how to get through the process with as little strain for them as possible.

If you have decided that you want the process to go as smoothly as possible, you have already taken an important step. Entering into the legal proceedings with the right mindset could help you have a less-contentious divorce than if you wanted to go in with guns blazing. Fortunately, legal options also exist that could help lessen conflict for your case.

Collaboration

Whatever the reason for ending your marriage, you and the other party may still have the ability to interact in an amicable manner. As a result, your divorce case may not have to go through litigation in order reach the end results. One option you may have the ability to utilize instead is collaborative divorce.

As the name suggests, these proceedings utilize collaboration between various parties, including you and your soon-to-be ex. However, it can also involve a number of professionals working to make the process as smooth as possible. For instance, you could interact with the following individuals during your case:

  • Your attorney
  • Your spouse’s attorney
  • Therapists
  • Child specialists
  • Financial planners

These parties can help ensure that important information is disclosed during the proceedings and also help the parties involved, including the children, express their concerns and needs throughout the process.

Negotiation

Rather than arguing through litigation, collaboration involves negotiating in order to reach agreeable terms. Each party will still have an attorney to help throughout the process and to ensure that you understand the legal aspects of your case. In the event that collaboration does not have the desired effects, you could still pursue litigation. If you do, you and the other party must obtain new legal counsel.

The idea of a non-adversarial approach to divorce may be completely new to you, and you may find the possibility of collaboration intriguing. If so, you may want to gain more information on this possible option. Utilizing local Kentucky legal resources could help you ensure that you obtain reliable and applicable information regarding this and other divorce topics.

High Asset Divorce: Money Doesn’t Always Buy Happiness

The old saying claims that the best things in life are free. Sadly, life itself can be expensive, and it requires a certain amount of capital to keep things running smoothly. While it may seem that more money may lead to marital bliss, some Kentucky couples may find that the higher income eventually leads to a high asset divorce.

Studies point out that a disparity between a couple’s credit ratings and incomes may contribute to marital discord. Interestingly, a higher level income does not guarantee a successful marriage. While it is reportedly true that spouses who each maintain a good credit rating and have adequate incomes tend to remain in a committed relationship longer, more money does not always equal a happy marriage.

Reportedly, studies have shown that those with a higher income may tend to support a more expensive lifestyle. Often, wealthier couples wind up with higher monthly expenses that tend to increase pressure on both finances and the relationship. Surprisingly, many of these couples do not have any retirement accounts in place in spite of earning an income that may exceed $1 million or more annually. In addition to higher expenses, many of these households may include a stay-at-home spouse, which may increase the level of discord in the marriage. In addition, if one partner tends to control the finances, the other may feel excluded from decision-making.

Another factor that may contribute to the chances of a divorce is the state of the economy. During good economic times, the numbers of divorces increase as each partner may feel financially stable enough to end an unhappy marriage. Regardless of the reasons behind a divorce petition, Kentucky residents who are facing this prospect may have many concerns, especially if theirs will be a high asset divorce. An experienced attorney can help fashion a settlement agreement to provide for one’s current and future needs.

Paternity Test Reportedly Confirms Owen Wilson is a Father Again

The actor agreed to the test after the mother, Varunie Vonsvirates, approached him with news of her pregnancy. Ms. Vonsvirate announced the name of her child back in the summer and later published hints on social media that Wilson is the father. The two were apparently in a short relationship. 

A spokesperson for Wilson stated that if he is the father, he will meet all of the obligations to the child that comes with being a parent. It further stated that he is a caring father for his two young sons and maintains a good relationship with each of the boys’ mothers. A recent announcement that the baby was born included news that the actor welcomed his new and only daughter. 

The actor has not personally made any public statements concerning the child and has not as yet publicly acknowledged that he is indeed the biological father. Kentucky residents have access to the same paternity testing tools. Whether one is trying to prove paternity or rule it out, a family law attorney can help address these important issues as well as related ones concerning custody and visitation, as applicable.