On behalf of Tasha K. Schaffner of Schaffner Family Law posted in divorce on Wednesday, May 25, 2016.
With many marriages ending in divorce, the emotional fallout from a break up is certain to affect children. Unfortunately, many divorcing couples don’t consider how it will change the. Research suggests that divorce can increase the chances that a child will have emotional and academic problems in the aftermath.
Indeed, some children are resilient and can bounce back quickly, but there are a number of steps divorcing parents can take protect kids from emotional harm.
Avoid conflict – Constant bickering and fighting only heightens the tension with children. An amicable split not only spares their feelings, but it can help them understand how to resolve conflict.
Give constant reassurance – Kids commonly blame themselves for their parents’ problems. Continued reassurance that things are not their fault is essential.
Allow time for change – You may have heard that kids thrive on stability and predictability, so try (to the extent possible for fairness) to gradually make adjustments. Sudden changes may spark anxiety, so sudden announcements about the family breaking up should be avoided.
Don’t manipulate the kids – Some parents (in an attempt to gain favor in custody disputes) will show additional affection to their kids or buy sudden gifts. Not only is this in bad taste, it also may be confusing to children.
Get help with your communication and parenting– Parenting classes for divorcees are not only required, they offer helpful tips for divorcing parents who have trouble communicating.
If you have additional questions about your legal rights and options in the midst of custody and parenting time disputes, an experienced family law attorney can help.