On behalf of Tasha K. Schaffner of Schaffner Family Law posted in divorce on Monday, May 7, 2018.
A spouse’s chosen career often can impact how the marriage plays out. Families in Kentucky with one or both spouses in the military have particular challenges due to frequent moves and long periods apart. While military divorce is not uncommon, many people attempt to save their marriages by seeking support and guidance from those who have lived as a military spouse for longer periods of time.
One woman married to a retired navy SEAL has chosen to write a book about her experience. She notes the high military divorce rate, explaining that deployments and the military lifestyle can be difficult on a family. The author’s husband was in the military for 22 years.
Like many military spouses, the author gave up her own career to raise her children while her husband was gone. He would leave for training and deployment for months at a time. The author admits it was a lonely experience and that she often felt resentment. Her husband admits that he did take her for granted during his career but is now extremely grateful for the family she raised and household she kept up while he was gone.
Kentucky military spouses may find it helpful to connect with others who have shared experiences. While it may be ideal to work through issues and not go through a military divorce, these marital breakdowns can occur with the stress of deployments and military life. Those facing such breakups have unique considerations regarding child custody, property division and many other issues. A lawyer is a good person to speak to about these various issues under Kentucky family law.