The prospect of divorce can conjure up quite a few feelings; from fear and despair about the unknown, to anger and disgust for your soon-to-be ex-spouse for the wrongs he or she has done. Even more troubling, you may have some notions about how you may fare based on other people’s experiences (or horror stories). Whatever you may have heard, it is likely based on a myth; an ounce of truth weighed down by pounds of bias or fear.

To be properly prepared for your divorce, you have to move past the myths. This post will identify and debunk a few myths that may keep you up at night.

Myth #1 – Divorces are time consuming and costly- Of course, if you fight over everything, chances are that the divorce will become very costly and time consuming. To move past this myth, you should consider mediation or collaborative divorce methods.

Myth #2 – Divorce can leave lasting emotional scars – Divorcees can develop hard feelings during the process, but after it is over, life can start over. Essentially divorcees can reinvent themselves and have prosperous relationships; both personally and professionally.

Myth #3 – Children of divorce will never recover – It is understandable that kids may react negatively upon learning that their parents will no longer be together, but for some children, the divorce may be a relief. Gone will be the constant bickering and fighting, which ultimately affect a child’s well being. Also, children of divorce may have long fulfilling relationships because of what they want to avoid in divorce.

If you have questions about these and other myths that may worry you in a divorce, an experienced family law attorney can advise you.