HOW TO HELP CHILDREN THROUGH DIVORCE

Indeed, some children are resilient and can bounce back quickly, but there are a number of steps divorcing parents can take protect kids from emotional harm.

Avoid conflict – Constant bickering and fighting only heightens the tension with children. An amicable split not only spares their feelings, but it can help them understand how to resolve conflict.

Give constant reassurance – Kids commonly blame themselves for their parents’ problems. Continued reassurance that things are not their fault is essential.

Allow time for change – You may have heard that kids thrive on stability and predictability, so try (to the extent possible for fairness) to gradually make adjustments. Sudden changes may spark anxiety, so sudden announcements about the family breaking up should be avoided.

Don’t manipulate the kids – Some parents (in an attempt to gain favor in custody disputes) will show additional affection to their kids or buy sudden gifts.  Not only is this in bad taste, it also may be confusing to children.

Get help with your communication and parenting– Parenting classes for divorcees are not only required, they offer helpful tips for divorcing parents who have trouble communicating.

If you have additional questions about your legal rights and options in the midst of custody and parenting time disputes, an experienced family law attorney can help.

 

HOW TO ESTABLISH PATERNITY IN KENTUCKY AND WHY IT’S IMPORTANT

When married, a man is automatically presumed to be the biological father of his wife’s baby. This isn’t, however, the case when a couple isn’t married. Consequently, unwed fathers who fail to establish paternity and subsequently split from a child’s mother have no legal rights to a child and cannot petition for child custody or visitation unless and until paternity is established.

Kentucky fathers who want to establish paternity of a son or daughter have two options:

1) Sign a paternity affidavit – A paternity affidavit is a legal document that must be signed by both a child’s mother and father, attesting to the fact that the father is indeed the child’s biological father.

2) File a paternity case – A paternity case can be filed by a child’s mother or father as well as a man who believes that he may be a child’s father. A blood or DNA test may be requested by the petitioning party.

Fathers, whether married or unmarried, have a right to spend time and form a relationship with a son or daughter. However, unwed fathers who fail to takes steps to establish paternity may jeopardize their chances of subsequently winning favorable custody and visitation terms. An attorney who handles family law issues can answer questions and provide strong legal advocacy to fathers who are facing paternity and custody disputes.

 

HOW TO HANDLE EMOTIONAL ISSUES AND WORK AFTER A DIVORCE

In these situations, it is important to understand the types of leave that you may be entitled to. For example, you may be allowed to use Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) time to deal with personal issues. This is especially important if you are leaving an abusive relationship and you need time to heal from emotional as well as physical injuries.

Additionally, you may also be able to use disability insurance to cover your time away from work, since FMLA time is unpaid. As such, your employer may require you to bring a recommendation from your physician explaining that you need time off, and how long you will be away.

You may be uneasy about your co-workers finding out about why you were away. After all, divorce is not exactly an uplifting office conversation subject.  You may also be afraid of what your colleagues may be saying behind your back. Nevertheless, there are some instances where personal pride should be set aside so that you can rest and get your life together.

As you see, these situations bring about family law and employment law questions. If you have questions about proper leave after divorce consult a family law attorneywith experience with employment leave questions.

 

WHY DIVORCEES SHOULDN’T BE VIEWED AS FAILURES

But the key revelation, or question in this instance, is why she is admitting that she failed? More importantly, why should people going through divorce feel like failures? 

Before getting to the answer, it is critical for divorcees to understand that simply because the marriage did not work out, it does not mean that they, personally, are failures. It is important to understand that a divorce is an opportunity for personal growth, and that you may learn more about yourself so that your relationships going forward (both personal and professional) will be productive.

So if you are feeling like you can do nothing right, and that marriage was your one chance to validate yourself, take solace in that divorce is okay, and that how you grow from this experience is more important than second guessing everything about why the marriage did not work out.

Dealing with this feeling is also important because it may hamper your ability to make decisions about your divorce, especially regarding property division and parenting time. By having a certain awareness about your post divorce future, you can make informed decisions.

The preceding is not legal advice. If you have questions about the legal issues in your divorce, an experienced family law attorney can help. 

 

WHY YOU SHOULD CONSIDER DIVORCE EVEN IF THE SEPARATION IS WORKING

It is not uncommon for couples that are experiencing relationship difficulties to spend time living apart. While during that time, some couples find their way back to each other, others decide to make the arrangement permanent. Just what the permanent separation will look like in the latter situation will vary depending on the couple. While some will move forward with a divorce, others may be tempted to continue as they had been, without a formal agreement. In the long run, opting to maintain the status quo could be problematic financially.

Generally speaking, when it comes to securing a good financial settlement in a divorce, there is no time like the present. While it is of course possible that the rules in Kentucky could change to your benefit, there is no guarantee that will happen and in fact, things could get worse. This is particularly true where women seeking alimony are concerned as reforms sweeping the nation, tend to favor husbands.

Another reason to move forward to end a marriage legally has to do with the potential further deterioration of your relationship. While you may be getting along okay during the initial separation, there is no guarantee this will continue either. While you are sharing accounts, anything your spouse does to negatively impact those accounts will negatively impact you as well. He or she could also spend the time you are living apart but not yet divorced, to hide assets or move to another part of the country or world, where the laws that govern divorce are more favorable to him or her.

While the process of divorcing can be overwhelming, the failure to move forward with a divorce in a timely manner could ultimately result in a much smaller financial settlement. It could have other impacts as well such as preventing you from moving on with your life. Working with a lawyer who understands the divorce process thoroughly and the issues that could arise, can make it easier.