On behalf of Tasha K. Schaffner of Schaffner Family Law posted in divorce on Tuesday, June 28, 2016.
Parents who choose to end their marriage often worry how their children will handle the emotional repercussions of a drawn-out courtroom battle. Fortunately, there is an alternative for parents who are less interested in casting blame and more interested in protecting their children from parental conflict.
In a collaborative divorce, couples resolve problems and manage disputes in a private, out-of-court setting. For parents who face a lifetime of events involving their children, this is a less adversarial process that is designed to preserve a healthy co-parent relationship.
You will be the judge
Even the most cooperative parents aren’t always sure how to navigate every issue they encounter during a divorce. Using a collaborative approach, couples work with an interdisciplinary team of professionals to reach a settlement. Parents can make well-informed decisions based on guidance from:
Family law attorneys: Both the husband and wife have their own collaboratively trained lawyer who looks out for their best interest while supporting the family’s goals for the future.
Financial specialist: A neutral financial expert helps to gather and analyze financial information about income, assets and liabilities to help the couple understand their options.
Mental health specialist: A licensed mental health professional helps parents manage intense emotions so that they can focus on the family’s goals for the future.
Child specialist: A licensed mental health professional with specific training in child development supports the overall goal to reach an agreement with the children’s best interests at heart.
What parents should know
A collaborative divorce may not work for every family. In fact, this problem-solving process works best when mutual respect already exists between parents. This approach might be a good alternative to litigation if you and your spouse are generally able to settle your differences in a fair and honest manner.