On behalf of Tasha K. Schaffner of Schaffner Family Law posted in divorce on Tuesday, April 12, 2016.
Divorce can be predictably unpredictable. Some call it an oxymoron, but we call it life. This means that as you go through the process of dissolving your marriage, you should not expect a textbook, trademark transition for your life.
With that, this post will highlight a number of things that divorcees should not expect to happen during their divorces.
Having others help you make the “right” decision – Indeed, it is normal to confide in friends and family. After all, you need someone to be a sounding board for your decisions, but your friends and family may have their own biases and agendas, no matter how neutral they may appear to be. Also, they have not walked in your shoes and do not have to deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Your friends before a divorce will be your friends after a divorce – It is natural, yet unfortunate, that some people believe that the problems in your marriage will trickle into their marriage and ultimately cause them to divorce as well. Because of this, some people may not want to spend as much time with you, or even write you off completely.
Feeling completely secure in your decision to divorce – Having feelings of anxiety and doubt are normal. So questioning whether you have taken the right steps or second-guessing a decision are common feelings of insecurity. While we are not psychologists, it may take a while for these feelings to subside.
Nevertheless, an experienced family law attorney can help you understand the legal (and practical) implications of the decisions you make during a divorce.