But the key revelation, or question in this instance, is why she is admitting that she failed? More importantly, why should people going through divorce feel like failures?

Before getting to the answer, it is critical for divorcees to understand that simply because the marriage did not work out, it does not mean that they, personally, are failures. It is important to understand that a divorce is an opportunity for personal growth, and that you may learn more about yourself so that your relationships going forward (both personal and professional) will be productive.

So if you are feeling like you can do nothing right, and that marriage was your one chance to validate yourself, take solace in that divorce is okay, and that how you grow from this experience is more important than second guessing everything about why the marriage did not work out.

Dealing with this feeling is also important because it may hamper your ability to make decisions about your divorce, especially regarding property division and parenting time. By having a certain awareness about your post divorce future, you can make informed decisions.

The preceding is not legal advice. If you have questions about the legal issues in your divorce, an experienced family law attorney can help.